Unfortunately, most of the time our countenance gives away everything!

I’m sure by now you have heard the term “rbf”. It means resting b**ch face. It is joked about, and most people will say “I’m not mad…I just have rbf”.

I was at a nail salon last week, directly across from a woman getting a pedicure. As I watched her expression and demeanor, the thought went through my mind “look at the mean mug on her!” Much gossiping was happening. It bothered me.

My next stop had a very similar situation. Another anonymous woman, another mad face. While she was getting pampered.

It convicted me.

Yes, I am often pensive. I am a very shy person who frequently struggles with anxiety…generalized as well as social.

I can turn on the charm when I want to – but as I go through the day, I am usually thinking. A lot. And sometimes, actually most of the time, my face is reflecting this.

The mean mug.

It’s not intentional – or is it?

If I don’t set out to have a calm and approachable countenance, isn’t that intentional?

It is now that I am aware of it.

I am not talking about pasting on a fake smile.

I am talking about thinking about pleasing things. Noticing the good. Purposing to let my face relax into a slight smile. Letting down my guard – starting with my face.

I’ve noticed a difference already. I am not as tense. My mind is not wandering to the stressors, because I won’t let it.

I am gentle. I am kind. I am beloved.

These are the things I am thinking…and they are showing on my face.

I feel my shoulders relax. My breathing slows.

Having a loving,open countenance takes intention.

I’m starting each day purposing to have a pleasing and approachable countenance.