My mother in law passed away in March after almost a year in assisted living.

For me, as the in-law, I think of her daily. She was such a positive force in my life! We had a good relationship, and I loved her very much. She accepted me from day one, didn’t judge me, and was infinitely grateful to me for loving her son – and she told me so. Often.

I know my husband is in a more painful place. The memories are bittersweet. He misses her terribly.

Mother’s Day I was not home, but I prayed fervently for him, as I knew his heart broke a little more again.

This weekend, we went to a wedding of one of his coworkers.

He was a widower, and after several years of grieving and healing after the death of his wife, he met a woman at church.

They have been dating for quite some time, and had a beautiful church wedding Saturday.

At the beginning of the reception, the groom, who is 62, had a dance with his mother.

It was very touching … and tenderly sad. I looked at my husband and said “I’m sorry” as the tears sat gathering in his eyes. I knew he missed his mom, and this beautiful moment would trigger his memories of her. It did.

It’s important to feel the feelings. To let them come. And go. And come again. its important to let the grieving process happen – not to rush it, or move on too soon.

We honor her by remembering her, and keeping her close in our hearts.

We miss you, Mom.