We are fast approaching the holiday season – if you don’t believe me, just enter any store, or watch TV commercials.

It is a season of happiness and love….or at least that is how it is promoted. For many people, this may be true, but for countless others, the holiday season brings stress, depression, and it is to be endured, not celebrated.

For those of us that struggle through the holidays, I have some tips that have helped me over the years.

Mindfulness is key – pay attention to what you are thinking about.

If you find yourself thinking of painful memories or current painful situations, turn your mind outward.

Count your blessings. Break it down as far as you need to – be grateful for the roof over your head. For having a job. For the beauty of fall. Or winter. For wild birds. Whatever brings you joy, focus on that. Take it in, and appreciate it.

If you are having a struggle with someone that is close to you, then be thankful for those who you are not in conflict with. If you are estranged from your family, be grateful for the friends you have in your life. Celebrate those who love you, whoever they are.

If you are able to see, use your sight to take in the beauty around you. Go to a park. A museum. An antique store. Whatever will keep your eyes and mind captured.

If you are able to hear, listen to some music you enjoy. Sit and really listen – pay attention to the subtleties. Go outdoors and listen to the birds sing. The wind rustling the leaves.

Serve someone else. Find a way to help others. Find a soup kitchen, a homeless shelter. Somewhere you can help others less fortunate than yourself.

If being home alone bothers you, ask someone over for coffee. Stretch your comfort zone.

The bottom line is not to dwell on those thoughts that bring distress. This, too, will pass – and it will pass with less pain of you can keep your mind off of the downside of the holiday season.